He sees himself in black and white Rarely any colors in-between He doesn’t know what they mean But he’s still trying
He sees the sky in black and white No shades of blue Or different hues It’s just day and night But he keeps trying
He sees the world in black and white Sometimes he’s in fright Fears the darkest of night Like there’s no end in sight Can’t take the colors when it’s too bright But if it’s a question of might He’ll keep trying
He’ll try to see between these fixed colors The white of light The black of night To the in-between of gray Where he seems to stray But the longer he stays More colors come out into the warmest of day Then fades in a cold way So he’ll keep on trying
Hope he finds those bright colors to help see himself, the world, the sky As he grows to reach the utmost high And take in all that gleams Just to reach his dreams
There are many things I don’t understand There’s much from me that life demands But I can do some things Like smile, sing, and dance I won’t give up, so give me a chance If you give me acceptance back, Then I’ll do better than white or black
I’ll solve this puzzle that’s a part of me Even if the pieces are all you see I’ll show more colors of the in-between To shine brighter than red, yellow, blue, or green I just know there’s a light, an end in sight But it’s not as simple as black Or white
The CDC released the new numbers regarding the rise of autism prevalence: 1 in 68. But these numbers really reflect the people diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). I assume there are many children, and even adults, who are undiagnosed because of the lack of autism awareness. The statistics concern not only the affected person, but also impact the families of those individuals.
I am one of the families raising an autistic son. An estimated 1 in 42 boys, and 1 in 189 girls are diagnosed with ASD in the United States. Imagine those odds. I couldn’t even consider those numbers until I had to face that reality for my son, Ray.
As usual, there’s never a dull moment when you have kids. Being a mother, I will always worry over my children. It’s part of taking on this awesome role. Yet when I had concerns about my son as a toddler, it was brushed aside as “boys develop slower than girls.” Even the pediatricians back then were not concerned, but they wanted to “wait it out,” before suggesting further evaluation.
Girls may mature faster than boys. Individuals develop at different rates and learn at their own pace, but I believe both genders should be able to master the developmental milestones at the appropriate age or time-frame. If the child has not, then it’s of vital importance to have he or she evaluated.
That “waiting period” had a significant effect in an early diagnosis for Ray. Since I remained suspicious about his developmental delays, especially in speech, I pursued a speech evaluation for him. Ray was around 2 ½ years old. After taking a detailed history and conducting her evaluation, the speech therapist suspected PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder Not Otherwise Specified). She recommended further consultation with a Pediatric Neurologist/Developmental Pediatrician, and have Ray evaluated by an Audiologist, and Ophthalmologist to rule out other influencing factors.
The waiting list for a developmental pediatric consult was up to a year in my area, and the other surrounding areas. I didn’t realize that so many children were affected with developmental and neurological disorders. So I scheduled a consult with a Pediatric Neurologist in another state because I got one sooner with that particular specialist. The doctor diagnosed Ray with ASD and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder).
Now all those suspicions and worries turned into fears. I became paranoid about social stigmas and bullying.
Ray is different. He’s not like other kids. The kids will make fun of him. He’ll struggle in life.
I had an idea of what Autism meant, but I wasn’t knowledgeable about the disorder. So I immersed myself in learning all that I can about ASD. I even drove myself crazy searching for a cure. There is no cure, only information about the possible causes, indications for early diagnosis, resources for treatment, and ongoing research. Had I known about Autism back then, I would’ve fought to seek early diagnosis and intervention. So I strongly stress this importance.
It’s like a cold, one can sense the oncoming signs, treat the symptoms, and hope the cold goes away soon. Yet unlike the cold, Autism won’t go away in days or weeks. The silver lining is that many affected people overcome their disabilities in years to come. These individuals eventually outgrow Autism to live happy and productive lives.
Imagine those odds.
I no longer imagine it, Ray is fighting the odds every day. He may not be “normal,” but he’s unique. He is different because he will make a difference in his life. He struggles, but it will only make him stronger. He has fears and setbacks, but with those challenges, he’ll learn to face them and conquer those obstacles head on.
Autism might be a disorder with a rising prevalence, but the diagnosis doesn’t define a person. Characteristics like determination, strength, compassion, and love defines a person. I can list many positive attributes, but these are the ones my son displays the most. Ray is quite a character, he’s well-loved, and I love him.
So when you look upon an autistic child, don’t dwell on the odds, celebrate the possibilities!
Come join me in celebrating Autism Awareness Month. World Autism Awareness Day is April 2nd. Check out the sites below to increase your awareness, and show your support to Light It Up Blue.
April is Autism Awareness Month. The CDC released the new number of 1 in 68 children as having ASD. Back in 2006 the numbers were 1 in 110 so Autism prevalence is rising. New research suggest that Autism starts with changes in the brain during fetal development. My child is diagnosed with ASD so I strongly stress the importance of early intervention. Become aware and “light it up blue.” April 2nd is World Autism Awareness Day. Show your support and as always, the families affected with Autism appreciate it.
Below are the links through Autism Speaks for more information. Thank you!
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